An invisible hand stretches out to grab a glove.

We all know someone around us who begs for money whenever the opportunity arises. This type of person lives off the backs of others. It’s as if they came to earth to accompany others.

It took me a long time to discover the deception, the open lie. It’s only human to turn around when we care about someone. We prefer to focus on the good aspects of the person rather than on the dark areas because not only does it break our hearts, but it also breaks the chain that we have decided to bind to our lives.

What’s worse is, the day you cut off life and tell the person why they turn a deaf ear and put themselves in the victim position because it’s so much easier. So they think that this is how you will back down or fall for it again.

You have to learn to say no. Not everyone who comes to us is to blame. It’s funny I say that because that’s how I used to react. And, as with everything, it’s when you stop paying that you realize that all the signs were there. The reality is that this type of gear will never bring you anywhere except down the drain. And believe me, at that point, that person who even gets out of it won’t hold out their hand to you.

I took some time to introspect to find where this tendency to help someone who doesn’t deserve even a moment of my time originates in this situation. I understood that it was coming from me and not from this poor victim of society. Indeed, it was I who gave him this unfortunate inclination to repress a desire that was lying dormant in me. Indeed, I was in desperate search of recognition, which would probably never come. Not because my intention was bad but because the person was not wise and thoughtful enough to consider returning the favor in any way.

I dedicate this text to all the so-called good-hearted people who do favors at all costs, without questioning whether it will help the person in front of you or not. My thoughts also go to all the people who do not help at all for their reasons. The key is to find the right balance for yourself before finding the right balance for the other person. Indeed, how can you help your neighbor if you don’t need it?

By Jdm